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It’s Time to Cut the Chain.

We make what people did TO us more important than what Jesus did FOR us.    – Christine Caine

I was at the Indianapolis Women of Joy conference this weekend and had the privilege of hearing Christine Caine speak.  She was a dynamic speaker.  But her message was even better.  The quote above really stuck with me.

We get all caught up in what people do TO US.

“She said this about me.”
“She had the nerve to corner me and ask such and such.”
“He cut me off in traffic so I got in front of him and went real slow.”
“She was mean to my son so I’ll get back at her.”
“He didn’t even give me a chance at that job so I’ll make him regret it.”
“They really hurt me and I’ll never forgive.”

What did someone do to you that you continue to carry around like a ball and chain affixed to your ankle?  It started out as sort of a prized ball and chain showing the world that you had been wounded.  You wanted everyone to know and everyone on your side.  You wanted the other person to suffer by public humiliation.

Then it became a part of you.  Almost a growth physically attached to you.  The wound won’t heal because you won’t let it.  You keep reopening it and letting yourself suffer in this thing that was done to you.

And maybe it deserves to be remembered and the person deserves to be punished and humiliated and pay for what they did.  I don’t doubt that there are absolutely situations that this is true.

But when we make our life about what was done TO US by someone instead of what was done FOR US by the Almighty God, we live in misery and gunk making all those we come in contact with miserable and stand-offish from us.  When we can’t forgive, God can’t forgive us.

Colossians 3:13 – Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another.  Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Some things are hard to forget.  Some things are hard to forgive – almost impossible.  But with the help of God and His grace, we can forgive.  Look what all we have done to slap God in the face; how many times we have gone against His will or His teachings.  And He forgives us – time and time again.

I want to say this very gently……..very quietly…..very softly…..but very sincerely…..please cut the ball and chain that you have carried around for months, for years, for decades.  Let’s be free from that heavy burden and turn it all over to the Lord and let Him take care of the person who has wronged us; the one we are having a hard time forgiving.

Romans 12:19 – Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written:  “It is mine to avenge, I will repay,” says the Lord.

Once we let go, we can walk with a spring in our step and a smile in our heart and radiate joy to all those we come in contact with.

It may take a while to get there but cutting the chain is the first step.  Concentrate on what Jesus did FOR us and let Him take care of those who did something TO us.

Here’s your chain cutter.  Let’s do this thing!

Smack In The Head Or Spring In My Step?

At our Weight Watchers® meeting this week, a gal was sharing that a waiter hurt her feelings when he questioned her decision to order a smaller portion from the children’s menu.  It wasn’t that he didn’t ALLOW it but rather he took it upon himself to question her as to whether or not the portion size would be enough food for her.  It has really bothered me all week.  I felt so sorry for the gal but then I shared one of my very favorite quotes from Eleanor Roosevelt….

“No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.”

She was doing what was  best for her and her weight loss journey.  It wasn’t up to the waiter to decide what or how much she should consume.  Hence, the quote – “no one can make you feel inferior without your permission.”

But then I thought about the waiter.  We look at him as being insensitive.  Maybe he didn’t mean to be insensitive or maybe he did!  But think about how many times we have done or said something that came across insensitive or rude (maybe we meant it or maybe we didn’t).  A lot of times hurting people hurt people.  But we must always go back to the scriptures.  Ephesians 4:32 says “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”

We need to always be kind and act with a tender heart.  Then remember that those we are interacting with also have tender hearts.  And when others are insensitive to us, we must forgive and move on because every day we find ourselves insensitive to God and He continues to forgive us.

Does it still hurt?  Yes!  Do you still want to smack someone in the head?  Absolutely.  But when we merge the quote, “no one can make you feel inferior without your permission” along with the scripture, “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you” we can move forward in our everyday life with kindness in our heart and a spring in our step.

(Watch out scales…. the numbers are comin’ down!!)